“No one ever tells us to stop running away from fear…the advice we usually get is to sweeten it up, smooth it over, take a pill, or distract ourselves, but by all means make it go away.”
Most of us do not take these situations as teachings. We automatically hate them. We run like crazy. We use all kinds of ways to escape — all addictions stem from this moment when we meet our edge and we just can’t stand it. We feel we have to soften it, pad it with something, and we become addicted to whatever it is that seems to ease the pain.” ― Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heartfelt Advice for Hard Times
For me this is the year I live with NO FEAR.
No numbing out or running away for me. 160 days, 5 months sober curious is part of that. Every year I go at least 3-6 months alcohol free. It keeps me grounded and for me it’s a touchstone to make sure I’m not mentally addicted to anything. I am talking about it now for the first time because I feel it’s important to know I’m exercising a choice you have open to you too.
It’s also a testament to the kind of energy I want to attract in a Man.
I am not interested in someone that 5 days a week needs to drink or get high (even in the socially acceptable ways that have infiltrated the world.) His vibration must match mine so that if we can be present to one another. And to acknowledge we are in control of our choices to have an IPA or a glass of wine. Instead of being driven by anything that can numb us out as a means to run away from what we’re afraid of. Because soon enough you’re using alcohol, drugs or even sex to run away from each other and that’s not going to bode well for the sustainability of the relationship.
I’m not running. I have NO FEAR.
As I recite from my #kundalini practice each morning “where there is love, there is no fear, where there is no fear, there is no anger.” As always fear or love and I choose LOVE.